Misogyny at it’s finest.

A couple days ago Floyd Mayweather posted this tweet:

Dress how you want to be addressed pic.twitter.com/Imj5yRDjh3

— Floyd Mayweather (@FloydMayweather) June 13, 2014

I didn’t expect to get as angry as I did because I don’t really consider myself as someone who dresses exceptionally revealing or sexy (unless the occasion calls for it) but for some reason this really pissed me off. Men like Floyd Mayweather see women as objects that they can comment on and control for their own entertainment.

Saying that a women is asking to be disrespected because of what she is wearing is absolutely ridiculous. Especially coming from a man who beats the shit out of people for a living. Sure, what someone wears is definitely a reflection of how they are viewed as a person but it is not what defines them as a person. As a woman I am free to show any part of my body that I please and I still deserve the same amount of respect as anyone else.

Are men so afraid or threatened by the female anatomy that they have to publicly disrespect women who are confident enough to wear whatever they please? I don’t think it’s so much that are afraid or threatened but that they are so insecure in their own self control and abilities to control themselves around women who dress “sexy”. It’s easy for a man to see a woman dressed scandalously, pick her up, sleep with her and then call her a slut. It seems that it would be a lot more difficult for a man to control himself around a woman wearing a certain outfit..and as punishment for their lack of self control men expect women to dress conservatively as to not put them in compromising positions where they’re unable to think with the brain inside their heads.

AND HONESTLY. It doesn’t even matter how women dress. Women get harassed and objectified every day, walking down the street, wearing basic shit like jeans and t-shirts. It’s just so much easier for men to blame women for their actions saying that their outfit is what caused them to act the way that they did.

Things like this are what makes women think that things like rape and assault are their own fault and not the fault of their attacker. Like they should be blamed for being assaulted because of what they are wearing rather than the fucked up thoughts that men have when they see a women in a particular outfit.

Misogyny at it’s finest.

The social media struggle

I just started my last semester of graduate school. (yay..kind of)

My first class of the semester is a graduate-level social media research class. I like research, and I’m fascinated by how social media affects people. (Notice I didn’t say I ‘like’ social media…See previous post). But now I am torn.

I had previously been operating two personal twitter accounts. Being a mass comm major, a lot of professors thought they would “challenge” the class by having us tweet throughout the semester. Knowing that the account would be monitored by people controlling my grade made me extremely uncomfortable so I created a “professional” twitter account. On this account I would tweet PR and classroom related things…then, subsequently, would go on my “personal” twitter account and complain about how stupid the assignment is.

Now being in grad school, I care much less about the perception of my tweets from my peers but the thought of a professor reading all of my stupid twenty-something, related tweets still makes me uncomfortable. Even though my personal twitter shows my true personality…do I want professionals to see that? In a way I do, because this is who I am. Another part of me is like “Sarah grow up. If you don’t want professionals seeing those tweets than maybe you shouldn’t tweet them?” but then again I think..well..it is MY account and I’m free to say whatever i want, right!?

This is my social media struggle. HELP!

UPDATE: This article “5 Questions to Ask Before Posting to Social Media” is great! 

“…but then you print some sh*t that makes me wanna scream”

I recently distanced myself from social media. Mostly Twitter. I’ve come to hate most social media sites in the past year or so, with the exception of a few niche sites like Pinterest and LinkedIn.

I decided to get off of Twitter because I realized that I really don’t care about what any of my followers have to say. That mostly speaks to the quality of the people that I follow. Everyone on social media has an opinion, which duh, that’s what social media is for. Giving people the opportunity to express themselves and yes, everyone is entitled to say and think whatever they want.

Lately, every time I log on to Twitter it’s all the same stuff. Complaining when you’re bored, complaining when you’re busy, men slut shaming, women slut shaming, everyone calling everyone out for the way they live their lives all while boasting these meaningless quotes and prophecies about what you need to do to be successful or how to be a better person. No one really lets anyone live their life without having some conflicting opinion about what’s cool and what’s not.

I live by the philosophy that if someone is doing something that makes them happy, and they’re not hurting themselves or anyone else, then just let them do the damn thing. Who cares? People care so much about how other people live their lives and spend so much time telling others how to live via social media. Twitter and Facebook especially have made people think that just because they have an opinion on a subject then that makes them an expert, and they can pass off their knowledge as some kind of supreme law.

I know that me telling people to shut up on Twitter is hypocritical and doing exactly what I said I hate, which is telling people what to do, so that’s why I just logged off. The only downside is that now I feel so out of the loop. I mean I didn’t even know about Beyonce’s new album until like 12 hours later (a long time in the world of social media).

I think in the near future I will be doing a cleanse of my followers and only keeping the ones who’s posts I enjoy reading. For now it’s actually been nice not knowing what people are saying or doing. It’s also been nice not being glued to my phone which is a habit that I hated myself for acquiring.

Sorry this is a bit of a rant but I just had to get it off  my chest.